Post by cavlem on Apr 23, 2007 18:32:18 GMT -8
Let me introduce myself. I am a women/partner suffering from the affects of Covert Incest (Emotional Incest) with my husband and his sick minded mother. When I came across this website, it almost felt like I joined a community that understood all that I have been through. For a moment I was going insane, seeing how my husband and his mother act like Husband and Wife. Not to mention he would constantly call me jeolous, selfish and heartless toward his family or things he loved. People have judged me and criticized me when after years of her abuse she was diagnosed with Colon Cancer and her manipulation increased. The worse she got, the worse I got! Who was he supporting....well I guess you can figure it out.
I have read some of the previous posts where others have stated it's like being married to a married man. This is the most mind boggling thing I have seen. Lately, as I came upon this site a few months ago, I was at my wits end. I ususally consider myself a very strong women, but it was getting to the point that I was fighting a losing battle. I couldn't win against mom. She is the cause of 85% of our problems. The other 15% is how she raised him. I am also hurt that he isn't even obedient to God's word that states about 5 times in the bible that a man should Leave his mother and Cleave to his wife.
I look this website and my book "Emotional Incest" by Patricia Love for support and I can just read a few pages as it basically dictates thier lives together.
My patience is growing low. We have some good days, but as long as she is needy and he feels like he is responsible, I don't know what the future beholds for us. I took a vow to love and honor him, not his mother.
I have read some of the previous posts where others have stated it's like being married to a married man. This is the most mind boggling thing I have seen. Lately, as I came upon this site a few months ago, I was at my wits end. I ususally consider myself a very strong women, but it was getting to the point that I was fighting a losing battle. I couldn't win against mom. She is the cause of 85% of our problems. The other 15% is how she raised him. I am also hurt that he isn't even obedient to God's word that states about 5 times in the bible that a man should Leave his mother and Cleave to his wife.
I look this website and my book "Emotional Incest" by Patricia Love for support and I can just read a few pages as it basically dictates thier lives together.
My patience is growing low. We have some good days, but as long as she is needy and he feels like he is responsible, I don't know what the future beholds for us. I took a vow to love and honor him, not his mother.