Post by mark on Sept 23, 2004 3:49:33 GMT -8
I really don't think this is the right forum for me, but maybe you guys can lead in the right direction for some useful information.
Where to start? I'm not really sure if I understand what "covert incest" is, but I don't think that's what happend to my girlfriend. I am close to 100 percent sure that she was sexually abused or raped by her father. I don't think I really need to go into the why of it now, but let's just say that it's very clear that something very, very bad happened in the basement of her father's house. I've never encountered anything like this before, and I know that I have hurt her very much because I pushed her into a lot of pain (more than I have ever, ever seen in my life) by asking about it.
I think her entire sexual life has been fundamentally altered in a negative way by what her father did to her, and it's interrupting how we interact now. She doesn't know when and how it's appropriate to have sex with men. I know that she loves me, and I trust her (I know that she's not going to cheat on me), but sometimes she says things that hurt me a lot, and her pseudo-casual attitude about sex makes me very jealous. The thing that is most painful is that I CANNOT talk to her about it. She continues to put on a front that I think is a lot of crap, and I just have to shut up.
Anyways, I guess this isn't very clear, but maybe you get the idea that I am very frustrated. I see a wonderful woman that I love very much, but I also see a lot of things that bother both of us, and we can't ever talk about it. Could someone please tell me about resources online, or forums or something, where I could hear from other people dealing with the same thing?
Thank you very much in advance for any info you can give me. I feel like I'm out to sea and I've lost sight of land.
Where to start? I'm not really sure if I understand what "covert incest" is, but I don't think that's what happend to my girlfriend. I am close to 100 percent sure that she was sexually abused or raped by her father. I don't think I really need to go into the why of it now, but let's just say that it's very clear that something very, very bad happened in the basement of her father's house. I've never encountered anything like this before, and I know that I have hurt her very much because I pushed her into a lot of pain (more than I have ever, ever seen in my life) by asking about it.
I think her entire sexual life has been fundamentally altered in a negative way by what her father did to her, and it's interrupting how we interact now. She doesn't know when and how it's appropriate to have sex with men. I know that she loves me, and I trust her (I know that she's not going to cheat on me), but sometimes she says things that hurt me a lot, and her pseudo-casual attitude about sex makes me very jealous. The thing that is most painful is that I CANNOT talk to her about it. She continues to put on a front that I think is a lot of crap, and I just have to shut up.
Anyways, I guess this isn't very clear, but maybe you get the idea that I am very frustrated. I see a wonderful woman that I love very much, but I also see a lot of things that bother both of us, and we can't ever talk about it. Could someone please tell me about resources online, or forums or something, where I could hear from other people dealing with the same thing?
Thank you very much in advance for any info you can give me. I feel like I'm out to sea and I've lost sight of land.