Post by shellshocked on Oct 6, 2006 10:51:45 GMT -8
Hello all,
I see that it's been a while since anyone has posted to the forums, but hopefully someone will visit and see this.
I am in somewhat of a different situation than all of you (or so it seems after reading some posts). I am the wife of a father/daughter situation (she is my step-daughter).
It gets stranger... I'm sure that my DH inadvertantly put my DSD in this situation, but here's the kicker. She's the one that initiates the contact. She flirts with him, calls him when we are out together, follows him around like a lost puppy... she's even gone as far as to expose her breasts and hang her bras over his desk chair (apparently... she wanted them to dry after laundering).
There are of course endless situations that I can list, but I'm trying to be as brief as possible. He says that I am crazy when I tell him that her flirting is disturbing to say the least. He says that he doesn't see it. He doesn't encourage her behavior, but he doesn't discourage it either.
DH is divorced from his ex and lived with no partner for about 6 or 7 years. He has two DD... 14 & 19. The 19 y/o is the one in question. They have mutual friends (!!!), he used to confide in her about everything, and they were together always until he met me.
She assumed that all of our dates and free time would include her, doesn't have any friends outside of his circle or the house.
I guess my confusion comes in because it seems that in most of the stories that I have heard about this, it's the parent that is initiating the inoppropriate contact, but in my case it is definately DSD. I understand that by not reacting to it, he is in a way encouraging it.
Do I put my foot down and make her get out of the house and get her life or do I leave it alone? He gets defensive, but does understand that her flirting and constant interfering in our personal lives is disturbing to me. He just says that "eventually she will find someone and move out"
I see that it's been a while since anyone has posted to the forums, but hopefully someone will visit and see this.
I am in somewhat of a different situation than all of you (or so it seems after reading some posts). I am the wife of a father/daughter situation (she is my step-daughter).
It gets stranger... I'm sure that my DH inadvertantly put my DSD in this situation, but here's the kicker. She's the one that initiates the contact. She flirts with him, calls him when we are out together, follows him around like a lost puppy... she's even gone as far as to expose her breasts and hang her bras over his desk chair (apparently... she wanted them to dry after laundering).
There are of course endless situations that I can list, but I'm trying to be as brief as possible. He says that I am crazy when I tell him that her flirting is disturbing to say the least. He says that he doesn't see it. He doesn't encourage her behavior, but he doesn't discourage it either.
DH is divorced from his ex and lived with no partner for about 6 or 7 years. He has two DD... 14 & 19. The 19 y/o is the one in question. They have mutual friends (!!!), he used to confide in her about everything, and they were together always until he met me.
She assumed that all of our dates and free time would include her, doesn't have any friends outside of his circle or the house.
I guess my confusion comes in because it seems that in most of the stories that I have heard about this, it's the parent that is initiating the inoppropriate contact, but in my case it is definately DSD. I understand that by not reacting to it, he is in a way encouraging it.
Do I put my foot down and make her get out of the house and get her life or do I leave it alone? He gets defensive, but does understand that her flirting and constant interfering in our personal lives is disturbing to me. He just says that "eventually she will find someone and move out"
