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Post by dogdogcrazy on Jan 11, 2007 16:41:47 GMT -8
 Here I am, as I have been with my SO for about 5 years, living together for about 3 years. He moved in with me, but keeps his own house in a nearby county. He visits his daughter, my SD20, there. They prefer to have private visits, versus say, she come visit him at our house, like my kids to do to see me. They also prefer that I not be hearing range when they have one of the many daily phone calls, which start before I'm up at 6:00, and end sometimes after midnight. They whisper to each other when I am around, will go into the bathroom and shut the door and carry-on for 30 + minutes. If we are all out somewhere, she will try to pull my hand out of his, so she can hold it. He wont stop her, but I do. She tries to sit in between us in the truck, or at a restuarant, take my seat if I get off the sofa, etc. I get upset, he tells me I need to grow up and stop being jealous. He lies to me about when and if he sees her, how much money he gives her, what he buys her, tells her, etc. They keep lots of secrets, make plans behind my back (some that even include me), and once he told me that "while you were in the shower we spent the whole time laughing at you". I have detached from her completely, as she is a rude, mean, lying brat to me. SO has improved, I say some, he says alot. I just don't know if I have the energy to hang in and fight it out, or if I should just quite and cut my loses now, while I am still enough to go have fun with who doesn't need his grown daughter with him 24/7.
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Post by amazed on Jan 12, 2007 3:41:40 GMT -8
Hang in and fight it out? Why?
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Here I am, as I have been with my SO for about 5 years, living together for about 3 years. He moved in with me, but keeps his own house in a nearby county. He visits his daughter, my SD20, there. They prefer to have private visits, versus say, she come visit him at our house, like my kids to do to see me. They also prefer that I not be hearing range when they have one of the many daily phone calls, which start before I'm up at 6:00, and end sometimes after midnight. They whisper to each other when I am around, will go into the bathroom and shut the door and carry-on for 30 + minutes. If we are all out somewhere, she will try to pull my hand out of his, so she can hold it. He wont stop her, but I do. She tries to sit in between us in the truck, or at a restuarant, take my seat if I get off the sofa, etc. I get upset, he tells me I need to grow up and stop being jealous. He lies to me about when and if he sees her, how much money he gives her, what he buys her, tells her, etc. They keep lots of secrets, make plans behind my back (some that even include me), and once he told me that "while you were in the shower we spent the whole time laughing at you". I have detached from her completely, as she is a rude, mean, lying brat to me. SO has improved, I say some, he says alot. I just don't know if I have the energy to hang in and fight it out, or if I should just quite and cut my loses now, while I am still enough to go have fun with who doesn't need his grown daughter with him 24/7.
