Post by lighthouselou on Apr 25, 2013 3:59:39 GMT -8
Hi everyone,
I'm very in love with a beautiful man.
We've been together for 2 years.
I'm 36 so we've talked about marriage and kids, because I'm already old to be starting a family. He told me several times we'd get engaged by certain dates, but has never followed through (commitment phobia).
Recently we went to a counsellor to explore this and the whole covert incest thing came out.
Now I don't know what to do - stay with him, support him, work through it together and hope for the best (this is what I really really want), or leave.
A factor in my decision is time.
If I want a family, maybe I can't wait for him to heal.
Maybe I have to look for someone else.
Can anyone tell me whether there's a generally accepted time frame for getting over covert incest, or getting "healed"? (Assuming he can admit the problem, which he seems to be doing, and is willing to change - which he seems to be, and do more counselling/therapy).
I'd really appreciate your answers!
I'm very in love with a beautiful man.
We've been together for 2 years.
I'm 36 so we've talked about marriage and kids, because I'm already old to be starting a family. He told me several times we'd get engaged by certain dates, but has never followed through (commitment phobia).
Recently we went to a counsellor to explore this and the whole covert incest thing came out.
Now I don't know what to do - stay with him, support him, work through it together and hope for the best (this is what I really really want), or leave.
A factor in my decision is time.
If I want a family, maybe I can't wait for him to heal.
Maybe I have to look for someone else.
Can anyone tell me whether there's a generally accepted time frame for getting over covert incest, or getting "healed"? (Assuming he can admit the problem, which he seems to be doing, and is willing to change - which he seems to be, and do more counselling/therapy).
I'd really appreciate your answers!