Parter of same sex CI

[thechad82]

Hello I'm posting on this forum as a partner of a CI (same sex) survior. I was wondering if there were any partners out there that had someone suffer from something like this (mother/daughter). Its a daily struggle for me because I'm the type of person who just wants to "fix" everything no matter what, and through counseling I have learned that's not exactly the right answer. My position has changed greatly but it still is a struggle a lot. She is a mother of an awesome son that is bound and determined not to make the same mistake that her mother made with her. I know she will be the greatest mother in the world to her son and I can say without a doubt that she will not carry on the same life altering traits of CI that her mother did with her. She has been in counceling for about a year and has made great strides in her recovery and the road to being a survior and I just want to provide the BEST support for her. Thank you for your time and please dont be too critical on my English I'm not the best of writers

[cajun6]

Hello. This is my first time posting. I am also in a same sex relationship and my partner is a survivor of CI (mother/daughter). We have been together 1 year and we don't have an easy sex life. She is very uncomfortable around sex and confused. She cannot receive at all and is scared. Throughout the relationship, I've noticed how her mother are extremeley co-dependant. She has started therapy a couple months ago and is just starting to understand that they don't have healty oundaries and I'm assuming her therapist is explaining CI to her. I've just started to learn about it.

I'm glad your partner is receiving couseling and wanted to know if you had the same struggles with her around intimacy and if that improved?

We have just started couples therapy as well. Thank you!